{"id":586,"date":"2010-12-04T22:30:47","date_gmt":"2010-12-05T04:30:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dromomania.net\/Blog\/Blog.php\/?p=586"},"modified":"2012-07-21T22:36:39","modified_gmt":"2012-07-22T03:36:39","slug":"particular","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dromomania.net\/Blog\/Blog.php\/?p=586","title":{"rendered":"Particular"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nToday we walked to the village with Everett for his second haircut.\u00c2\u00a0 During his first haircut he sat in the chair alone, but this time he wanted to sit in one of our laps, so he and Melissa were in the barber chair together.\u00c2\u00a0 He was great the whole time, but problems started to appear around time to leave.\u00c2\u00a0 First he refused to put on his jacket, snow pants, hat, gloves or shoes.\u00c2\u00a0 It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s a good thing we walked to the barber shop, because by the time the stroller reached the sidewalk he was having a full-blown temper tantrum, and we know from experience that it is virtually impossible to get him into his car seat at moments like this.\u00c2\u00a0 We tried everything to calm him down but nothing worked.\u00c2\u00a0 So by the time we got to the bridge in Tosa Village we were the parents with a screaming, uncooperative toddler standing in the snow in his socks with no winter clothing on.\u00c2\u00a0 This brought amused smiles from other parents, and some shared stories of their own experiences, so it was more of a source of camaraderie than judgement, but it certainly wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t enjoyable.\u00c2\u00a0 After about two and a half years I would say that learning to parent is not a gentle process.\u00c2\u00a0 Everett is now in a phase that we describe as lovable but sometimes infuriating, largely due to how bossy and particular he is.\u00c2\u00a0 Still, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s impossible to stay angry with him, partly because his infuriating behavior is interspersed with open compassion for me and Melissa, and partly because he is so funny (and he knows it).\u00c2\u00a0 I talked about this with one of the Tosa Spokesmen that I ride with, a man with four children whose ages range from four to fifteen years.\u00c2\u00a0 He acknowledged what I was saying, then mentioned that someday our behavior would be equally infuriating to Everett, though I assured him that in my case this isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t possible.<\/p>\n

Everett is capable of a wide range of emotions, but he seems to have very limited control over the transitions from one emotion to the next, and the amazing thing is that as a result, sometimes neither do we.\u00c2\u00a0 I won\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t speak for Melissa but I will say that my emotions often mimic his.\u00c2\u00a0 When we are both at our best I secretly have thoughts of winning some kind of excellence in parenting award.\u00c2\u00a0 And we are both at our worst I wonder how any parent maintains their composure, and I am astounded that anyone would intentionally have more than one child. I sometimes expect to hear sympathy from other parents that my child will not behave in a logical, reasonable manner. But it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s clear that at this point in his life being in control is a much higher priority than being reasonable, so I expect to receive amused expressions more than sympathy when I tell such stories.<\/p>\n

Discipline has now become a common discussion topic between me and Melissa.\u00c2\u00a0 Timeouts have usually been effective in the past but compliance has become an issue (he keeps getting up before the timeout is over) so we will be considering new approaches.\u00c2\u00a0 I think I can summarize by saying that discipline is not fun, but having an undisciplined child is worse.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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